Help!YO YO H is killing me.

[Yoyowife]

Penny,
We all get too comfortabale in our marriages and think well we've been married this long we will always be together. I too gained weight and became very embarassed about my appearance. I really never thought it was much of an issue with him. He used to say well at least we are fat and happy together. He has put on weight also, but not as much as me. I've lost 40 pounds on the divorce busting diet. He too has noticed, but he doesn't give me near the compliments that everyone else does. He just says things like, well, you're looking better, whereas everyone else says things like wow, you look great!

The positive I see in your situation is that he is communicating so much with you. If you read these boards you can see that you are being treated much better than some of the other LBS. That's what I keep telling myself and my heart goes out to them. Continue to be upbeat even though your heart is breaking inside. I read a book that said we have to love our spouses 100%. Everytime I feel like I am putting out much more effort than he is, I say to myself I'm loving him 100% We don't have to be doormats, just Love Him 100%!