I honestly don't ever think I'll be able to stop maintaining this part of our marriage...but that's ok because when I look at it as maintenance it makes perfect sense to me that I would continue.
Ugh. I hear you GEL. The emotional romantic in me hates that answer though. The realist in me sees how it makes perfect sense. I've been with my H for a long time (almost 15 years), I've been in a SSM most of that time, and I'm still here plugging away. I love him. Neither of us are perfect. And I am trying to focus on that for now. Desperately hoping the impulsive side of me doesn't do anything stupid to cause even more problems. But that's me. Half realistic, half off the wall. LFL