Just caught her hiding, on the phone again, presumably with OM.
pissed off -
Luke
Luke, at this point pissed off should not even be in play for you. You have been at this for to long now, what she does or doesnt do on the phone should not be a stresser for you anymore. Accept where your marriage is at, be the good man and dad that you are and take a f^ck her mentality. Do for you and your kid, that's it, plain and simple my friend.
Ok Luke, if this stuff is still getting to you, what can you do right now to make it better? You have two options if you ask me.
1. Detach completely, move forward with your life and your plans for yourself and your kid.
2. File for Divorce and be done with it, move on completely and find hapiness elsewhere.
Seems to me that after three years #2 isn't so much of an option. I mean you have played it out this far, and sort of knowing you I would think that you don't really have it in you yet to file and move on. You my dear friend are as unfortunate as I am in that you are truly in love with your wife and have the soulmate mentality. It's sort of a detriment for both of us in that we listen to our hearts more than our heads at times. We still get hurt by the little actions on their part that we can perceive as cheating or unfaithfulness, when the reality is that right now they are not ours and we cannot expect faithfulness or loyalty from them realisticly. They have their own lives, their own agendas, and they do not beleive that they have any accountability to us as their husbands. Accept it buddy, do not allow it to affect your mood.
By the way, just because your pissed doesnt mean that we don't deserve the descriptive writings of LuckyLuke on the current conditions in sweden.... I so look forward to those....
I so look forward to those....