He called shortly after I posted the above. It was XOW on the phone. She has decided not to sell him the vehicle he's put all the $$ into and wants it back. He feels "scorned" and that he built a shed, bought a grill for the place, made furnature, etc. and that he "lost everything he put into it and it's not even a divorce." He said it's so hard to talk with me about this stuff but he needs to and "thank the lord you still love me". We'll be okay if I can figure out how to do enough long distance to keep our communication going and not fall into old traps.
Because we are selling, I had to quit the creative projects/painting, etc., that I've been doing here to "GAL". I also can't afford to put $ into flowers/gardens/landscaping that I'm going to leave. Can't start a class... maybe online? The point I'm getting at is I don't want to be boring. I'm in limbo but have to find a way to keep things going and start new ones while we are in transition.
Does anyone out there trying to piece/rebuild/start over LD know of any good books with ideas how to do this? He doesn't have internet access so anything on the computer won't work. I can't send him a copy of Surviving Infidelity for him to read. Some kind of "game" like a newlywed game or those old Redbook quizzes that we could use snail mail and phone calls to play?
I've been reading the Newcomers to Piecing thread and will finish that, and want to catch up on some of you who have a clue what you're doing before I blow this.
I don't know. Maybe I'm doing just fine. Maybe I'm too new to this to understand advice you might give at this time or to see what advice I need. I don't want what we had before. I don't want to let life's struggles and our apathy allow us to stop caring who we are and what we think and dream about again. I want the passion back. I want to keep surprising him (that worked really, really well).
