Corri, by the way, you did notice that I didn't change my name as you suggest in your "rude" post. When I came up with the name 12_51 it had meaning to me. I may change it in the future, but I'm was not about to change it just because you said to.
I did notice, and good for you. Your life, what you do or do not do, what has meaning to you or not... is strictly up to you and no one else.
You may want to pick up a book called: "The Way of the Superior Man," by David Deida. A lot of the people here have read it, and it has gotten the SSM Two Thumbs Way Way Up Review.