I am over in the MLC forum, and Virginia ask me to come over here and check out your sitch. I have to go to work in about 5 minutes so I will be brief now, and come back later. You are on a very tough journey, and you have to give yourself ALOT of credit. You did not expect to be on this journey and it if one of the hardest things you will ever go through. I believe this is MLC. No one knows until he comes out of it. But what ever it is I would do some reading under the MLC forum, we have lots of great posts there that will strike a nerve with you, MLC Resources all links on one thread. Days and weeks of reading. Your husband is in a depression. He is covertly depressed, with major bouts of overt depression. Read anything you can get your hands on about men and depression. There is nothing you can do but take care of yourself. Leave him alone, as much as you can. All the DB principals apply.
He is the one with the problems. Do not let him suck you down there with him. Depression loves company, and from the sounds of the OW she fits the mold. She is on the same low frequency as your Husband. I got to get to work!
Hugs, Holly
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
