I actually go to a lutheran church, so theirs not too much speaking out or tongues or dancing, okay, there's none of that! But it is a little bit more contemporary, we're in the bible belt, so it's a little more upbeat around here in Oklahoma.
I'll just let it be in God's time. I just have to continue to show him the love of God by my actions. Boy is that hard sometimes!
I'm listening to that link right now. wow. I just heard her say she prayed for her dad for years, and 4 days before his death he gave his life to God. Totally hit home.
Also, I am sooooooooooo bad. Okay, remember how we need to not make conclusions about stuff? Well, my H mentioned a couple weeks ago that his friend was having a b-day party. That's all he said. no "would you want to go to a party?", "hey can you get a sitter for kids"..etc. So, I let it all go. Then just 2 days ago he mentions the party again and says, not sure what he's doing yet. So then I'm like, oh here we go again, a party that I'm not going to, but there will be a few wives/girlfriends there, but not me. Why does he not like to invite me? ugh. or, it's just he waits till the last minute so that I don't even have a chance, or I don't know.
WELL. I let it go again, never commented about anything. i didn't want to ASK to go. I'm not like that. If he wants me to go, he'll ask. Well, I don't know what he said, something like I wish it was easier for us to do things, and I said, I thought you didn't want me to come, and he said, no, Cannon has chicken pox, and I said, well he's not contagious now.
Well, then he made the excuse that he didn't want to spend 20-30 bucks for a babysitter so we could go. Which is true, but then he just spent 20 bucks on cleaning products for our truck. oh well. That's okay.
My point is this. I totally thought he just didn't want to ask me again, but it was because our s2 had chicken pox, and his friend also has a 2 year old. So, I couldn't believe I had thought that, and I should have said how I felt or something. I just don't want him to think I'm a whiney wife or something.
Well, also, he just left, and he txt me immediately with this.
"I do feel bad bout tonite. Wish things were easier for us to do stuff."
So glad that I was wrong! I need to take my own advice.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
ST - maybe THAT'S the problem, your H wants more dancing and talking in tongues at church... . Just kidding.. but yeah, I think you're right to just be patient and give him time, and maybe he'll decide to go.
About the party - boy does that sound like something that'd happen with my H! (as you know from my latest update). I wonder if you could work out some kind of babysitting sharing arrangement with some friends or neighbors? To make it easier for you guys to go out and do stuff?
Thanks for your email too - will reply shortly!
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Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Wasn't that so ironic? that we both misunderstood!?!
I wish we DID know people, but we don't. It seems like all our neighbors are crazy. Well, either crazy, alchoholics, or just too messed up in their lives right now.
We did get a chance to go to Bass Pro shop and ride in kayaks. I've never got to do that before, so that was really cool. Lasted about 5-10 minutes, but we all got to do it.
Now he's talking about getting a dog to suprise the kids. Not sure about that though. I'll be the one who'll end up having to take care of it, but it would be cool though.
Looking forward to your reply Nikki!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I'll just let it be in God's time. I just have to continue to show him the love of God by my actions. Boy is that hard sometimes!
Yes, this is very tough & something I am battling with now in responding to my wife's latest "attack" as I am compelled to defend my postion but at the same time I actually feel sorry for my wife as there are quite a few inaccuracies in her affadavit
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I'm listening to that link right now. wow. I just heard her say she prayed for her dad for years, and 4 days before his death he gave his life to God. Totally hit home.
Stunning hey - I thought you might draw some inspiration from it
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Also, I am sooooooooooo bad. Okay, remember how we need to not make conclusions about stuff? Well, my H mentioned a couple weeks ago that his friend was having a b-day party. That's all he said. no "would you want to go to a party?", "hey can you get a sitter for kids"..etc. So, I let it all go. Then just 2 days ago he mentions the party again and says, not sure what he's doing yet. So then I'm like, oh here we go again, a party that I'm not going to, but there will be a few wives/girlfriends there, but not me. Why does he not like to invite me? ugh. or, it's just he waits till the last minute so that I don't even have a chance, or I don't know.
WELL. I let it go again, never commented about anything. i didn't want to ASK to go. I'm not like that. If he wants me to go, he'll ask. Well, I don't know what he said, something like I wish it was easier for us to do things, and I said, I thought you didn't want me to come, and he said, no, Cannon has chicken pox, and I said, well he's not contagious now.
Well, then he made the excuse that he didn't want to spend 20-30 bucks for a babysitter so we could go. Which is true, but then he just spent 20 bucks on cleaning products for our truck. oh well. That's okay.
My point is this. I totally thought he just didn't want to ask me again, but it was because our s2 had chicken pox, and his friend also has a 2 year old. So, I couldn't believe I had thought that, and I should have said how I felt or something. I just don't want him to think I'm a whiney wife or something.
Well, also, he just left, and he txt me immediately with this.
"I do feel bad bout tonite. Wish things were easier for us to do stuff."
So glad that I was wrong! I need to take my own advice.
Well, you're human & it's so easy to assume stuff and/or speculate!
Jen Jam says there are are usually many possible explanations to the way our spouses react so it's better not to think the worst etc!
IMHO you zipped your lips and that was the best course of (non) action for you - well done!!
PS - oh, if you maybe would'nt mind stopping by bnd's thread as she seems to ALSO be wrestling with "girl friend" issues like NikkiB (saw your reply on her thread )
Thank you CM. I will take time and check that song out, thanks.
I will check out bnd's thread.
Hey, I just want to share that God is really starting to bless our lives right now. Nothing positive yet, but the opportunities are just opening up.
Well, Nikki already knows about the juice I'm distributing, and I am just being amazed at how many people are finding help thru this God given creation. Well, in regards to this, I prayed yesterday, that if this wasn't God's will, for me to be in this MLM, that I would get turned down, or something to let me know. Well, I called 4 people today, and 3 of them called back and are really excited to try it! I'm really blessed to have found this.
ALSO! Because I've been talking to people about MonaVie, I had a couple flyers printed at my computer, and to make a long story short, an old neighbor drove by to feed his daughters dogs while she having a baby. So I just HAPPENED to see his truck pull in, and I thought, I need to give him a flyer...so I run out there, and we start talking.
1. His sister calls while we're talking about his new job, and I just had this feeling that something was wrong with her health. Well, she has cancer! I told him, please take this flyer and give it to her! (the acai berry is being studied because it attacks cancer cells!)
2. I told him my H was very interested in his new delivery job, well he told me that he's opening his LLC, and hiring 5 guys and has 4 already ready to go! One opening! I said, could my H work on weekends? and he said, well, if your H would like 4-5K a month, would he quit his job? I said, YES!!!
Isn't that sooooo cool??????!!!!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
ST wow lots of wonderful news, congratulations!!!! I'm really happy for you. Maybe you guys can even move soon, that would be so nice!
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Nikki- thanks! wouldn't that be awesome if we could get out of here!?! cept I love my house I halfway designed, but oh well.
CM- thank you, and yourwelcome. I definitely am giving thanks to Him! I think this monavie is helping me do that too. I'm trying to put God in this, and it's also causing me to focus more on God at the same time. Since I'm relating the two together.
Also, just wanted to comment that we went out to eat last night, and then we drove around a little and took kids to park. well, H was going to chill in the car, well, he felt bad for s8 who was just looking at the older kids throw a frisbie, so he took a ball from the car and went out there. Well, we all ended up playing at the playground... H even swung on the swing a little!,.. for over an hour! I don't even think that's ever happened?
so thankful! my next goal is to pick a day every month just to pray and fast for my H. Today is the first, and I'm drinking my monavie only.. till supper... this is hard work I'm also going to pray at every hour (just a little prayer). I feel really good about this too,
okay s2 pulling me away!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
welp, my fast is over...well officially around 4...had to eat part of my kids sandwich!
Today was great...until s2 peed on my s8 floor and then later pooped in his underwear. ug. I totally thought the potty training was over. guess not. that really really really stresses me. I don't know why. well, yes I do. I've been doing it for almost a year I think...and I shoulda been consistant from the start, but I wasn't. He'll be 3 in 3 days. and 3 days in a row he went on the potty the whole day. then for 2 days he didn't go at all!
always tomorrow.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
But it is a little bit more contemporary, we're in the bible belt, so it's a little more upbeat around here in Oklahoma.
