Fiji - you are right, the opinions vary a GREAT deal on this board. Male, female, betrayed, betrayer, separated or not, the list goes on. I for one have gleaned a whole heck of a lot of advice on here. Some I have put to use, some not. It all depends on each individuals situation.

Same goes for the DB techniques. I find most have not worked in my situation but then I am dealing with something a little out in left field. My H and I have quite a different set of dynamics than a lot of the posters on here - we're civil to each other - lol

Joking aside, 12_51 is going through a LOT of emotion right now, and yes, I think Corri was a little harsh, but that's just Corri's "way" - 12_51 can take it or leave it

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)