Will Closure Ever Occur?

[Confused_in_AZ]

Thanks for the responses! Sorry that I am delayed getting back to you all. I have a big conference this coming weekend and have been swamped.

Jeff, I really appreciate your advice. I have been keeping the door open to other things. I guess that is why I am dwelling on this topic a bit. Recently I ended a relationship with a gal that I was seeing for 8 months. She was very attractive, outgoing, and fun. We had some great times together and I would even go so far as to say that I fell for her a bit. But in the end, I realized that she was not what I really wanted. She was unstable in her life (moved a bit), but more than that, was not able to really deal with her feelings or show them. Some bad relationships did that too her.

My XW was actually the person that got me started really thinking about "Jane". My X told me one time at dinner that "I deserved more" from someone that I was dating then I was receiving from Jane. That statement kind of blew me away. Then, later on, rhetorically asks me why no one has asked her out since our D. I replied with why am I seeing someone and she is not. She replied that I was fun, attractive, outgoing...a great guy. Again....blew me away.

I have made no attempt to rekindle things with her, but certainly have left the door open. Just wondering what you all would do in this situation. When you think your X might want to come back, but is too proud to admit it?