She's moving out and says that it's permanent

[Heywyre]

12_51

First of all, I won't be as cruel, but you really do need to grow a set.

As for who pays what - how much does she make, what are your bills, how did you deal with it when she was living with you. All of things have to be taken into consideration.

I don't know how some of these new fangled couples do it - I pay for this, you pay for that. To me, being a couple means we both throw everything into the pot, regardless of who makes what. The bills get paid and whatever is left over, is play money or whatever.

Having said that, yours might be a situation that doesn't allow for that. What is your situation? Were you set up like that?

There are bills that have to be paid, regardless - i.e. the mortgage. If her name is on the mortgage, then too bad, so sad, she better cough up half the mortgage payment because she is going to get half the equity in the house if it gets sold - fair is fair. If she squawks about "but I have rent to pay too" - hey, that ain't your problem, it was her decision to move out into her own place. She has to face the music if she wants her freedom