I haven't posted for along time here but have been reading your thread. The decluttering is a problem for a bunch of us. I have also been working on becoming more organized with paper work. I have our business paper work plus our personal paper work. It can build up so quick. We sold our old house which was big and went to a house about 1/2 the size I am really working on it. My husband said the same things clutter, finances but it was never because he didn't help or spent to much. I'm sure my H is in a MLC right now and it is draining the roller coaster ride. He now compliments the house and that I have lost weight.
I also understand the Black hole of jealously. It consumed my thoughts and time because of the OW who I know. It is like you are falling and can't reach the top to pull your self up. I finally stopped and said I can't do this to myself any more. I started exercising and when I would have those thoughts I would say I am not going to go there. I would say God this one is yours take care of it. It felt like I was letting someone help me. I read alot. You have to GAL for YOU.
