She thanked me for all of my help and it was`appreciated. "I'm sorry things didn't work out for us the way we thought or hoped, but I really hope we can still be good friends"
It seems that every person you ask, has a different interpretation of what this word "friends" means. I'm guilty of it myself. When I use it in the context of a guy, it's a buddy type thing. We can hang out, shoot some pool, talk chicks etc.
When it comes to me referring to a girl as a friend, there are 2 types. The 'sister' type female friend who I wouldn't think of getting her panties off and then there's the other type whom I would...without hesitating. The latter, could turn into a full blown relationship if the other factors are right.
Your ex hugs you, kisses you and ML to you. You help her, she sends you a card, she calls you, she texts you etc, etc, etc, What do you think her definition of friends is? I can tell you right now, it is not how YOU define a buddy.
I know, I know, you're quaking in your boots thinking she wants to be the 'brotherly' type of friend aren't you? It's possible but I think it's highly unlikely because she's been saying this friends thing with you for a while and before the extraordinary improvement in your sitch.
Could it be possible that she see's you as the third type of friend in my example? The friend you hang out with, help mutually, snuggle to and have orgasms with....leaving the door open for more of an R?
You're just an honest, nice guy that just wants to have his ex back. I know that, you know that and so does everyone else. What you are missing completely, is your game plan...you need a game plan to stick to.
You can't let every little 'move' (remember it's a game and you don't have a plan) that your ex makes, you feel like it's a torpedo sinking your battleship.
How about coming up with a game plan? Something that involves backing right off (and what you are going to do with that free time) to let your ex come to you. Just consider the possibility that your ex still has a way to go to complete her MLC. She's actually doing you a favor. Diving into a full blown R with her now is like volunteering for a suicide mission.
God Bless
Suit
"It's better to have no spouse than have a bad spouse"
