Well, I'm sorry about the email, but I think the good effect of it is that it is leading you to back off again and think of yourself first. I can only imagine how hard it would be to think that maybe there was a chance after all this time, only to find out that (maybe) there isn't.
Whether she's MLC or emotionally wounded doesn't really matter ~ either way, she is not a good partner to you right now, as is evident from the list you made.
I hope it will be easier for you to move ahead with your own life, since you've done it before. I think it will.
Best, Nicola
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