"I really need to get back into detaching!! I was getting decent at it before, but now I'm lousy."
Maybe because you relaxed and started trusting again when H came home. I find myself moving up and down the detachment themometer myself. You'll get back there.
I was thinking about you this morning and wondered if H isn't going to your parents' party because he feels embarrassed and guilty. Maybe he's more comfortable going to his brother's thing because he doesn't feel as self-conscious?
