Matilda, Yoyo, Slowly, and Friends, I went to visit my IC yesterday. He clearly doesn't approve of my W's sleeping elsewhere behavior. He doesn't think I should stay in a M, where the other person isn't committed to solving problems as partners. I told him that I'm thinking about my options, but am not ready to file for D. I suppose it's helpful to be reminded that I shouldn't let this go on indefinitely. He helps me to be objective about this situation, and to stay focused on my goals.
My W has begun initiating some physical contact (touching me affectionately). She seems to be inviting me to participate in her life on a more frequent basis. She asked me to dinner last night. She asked me to participate in a dance lesson, with her instructor.
She is contemplating what kind of work she would enjoy. She is in a social services position that she doesn't enjoy. She has a graduate degree in business, and has worked in social services for seven years.
She is considering going to school to get a massage therapy license. Her mother has offered to help with tuition. I'm not too proud to accept her help.
My opinion is that if she's thinking about career choices, than it's a matter of time before she starts making a plan for some change. Doing work that she enjoys, is suited to her personality and values, and pays her a respectable salary, will IMO greatly improve the quality of her life.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
