I guess more accurately, it is difficult for a person to see all of their faults as others perceive them.
It's not what someone else perceives your problems to be that matters because you're not going to sincerely and deeply CHANGE just because someone else thinks you need to. Ask any alcoholic if they stopped drinking because someone said they needed to.....Uh uh, not for good they didn't. But when THEY saw the problems alcohol caused in their lives and THEY made the CHOICE to stop drinking, get educated...etc......you see where I'm going with this.
This is the part where you come face to face with yourself and your God and all that you are NOT in spite of all you were created to BE.
Some men won't 'go there' because they think they're "self-made".
Nevertheless, this is now not a bit about her and ALL about you.
Not YOU living with her, either.
But you being able to live with YOURSELF even if she is gone.
