CeMar:

You know how annoyed and pissed off you are that your wife doesn't desire you?

Well... I would imagine that that is how annoyed and pissed off she is at you for being annoyed and pissed off at her for not desiring you.

And the more annoyed and pissed off you get at her... the more firmly stuck in her beliefs and position (and annoyed and pissed off) she becomes.

So. Your JOB, a la Dieda, is to rid yourself of your annoyance and anger, and NOT PUT UP WITH hers.

Corri