Chicki, From a mans perspective absolutely we can seperate physical from emotional. Hello, did you never get laid and then dumped in high school? No offense to any women on these boards but guys grow up with the aspect that some women are simply a piece of as$. Girls don't get reps for sleeping around unless they have. Guys target them because there is no emotional connection, your just dipping your wick so to speak.
I played ball in high school and college and I can tell you that there was no emotional connection for me until I met my Wife. Every other woman I was with was simply a piece of as$ to me. Yes, I dated seriously, but it was not a huge emotional thing, I could go on without them if need be. Sometimes a woman can be worth more effort if she is hard to land so you tolerate more to get what you want.
Now once a man has that emotional connection, he is hooked on it. Your H is f^cking this other woman, plain and simple. He is not making love to her, he's screwing her. That's what he's trying to tell you. Why, who the hell knows, my best bet would be that he is just lost and acting like a high school boy right now. How old is he anyway? He's telling you that it's not love, he said they are past that point, that means that the initial euphoria of the R is gone and he has realized that he conquered her. Got what he wanted and is now simply riding that out. He's not connected to her, doesnt want to marry her, just having his fling. Guess what, as long as you keep tolerating it, he will keep getting laid.
It's kind of on you now Chickie, lay down the gauntlet and see how he handles it. It is unnacceptable for him to be screwing someone else and living with you, plain and simple. He won't leave, BS, there's a way to get him out if need be. Figure it out.
