I see it as infatuation, but from what she tells me about how she feels. - Does not feel close to me, does not get her emotional needs met by me... Then to make that feel even worse, she follows it up by - she knows that the relationship with OM can't work, but it feels like she has known him for a long time, that he is sensitive, that she feels safe with him. She says she is the happiest she has been in a long time, and that she has been unhappy for a long time.
Somedays she is convinced I could never fill that void. That she can't give me what I need, and I can't give her what she needs. - Other days she realizes that the void is something she is trying to fill with him, and its the same as it was with me in the beggining, that we had all the closeness and safety.
I think she is having a MLC: he is 10 years younger than she is, and he is saying and doing all the right things. The attention he is showing her is a big part of this. I also understand the affair is a symptom and not the full cause for our marriage being so close to disolving.
I still love her, but for the most part I have let her go. Most of the time I believe that she is rewritting history, and that through the hurt and neglect she can't remember what our relationship was like in the beginning.
Today i need some reasurrance. Are the things she saying unique? Or is this common for me to be hearing?
