hey, COG- one variant on the lingerie thing...if she responds to you buying her some, then later on in the journey, try taking her along so you can help her pick it out. a long time ago (it seems) my h and i would go shopping--just generally, like to a dept. store...he'd start looking through racks and pulling things out, looking at me, then sometimes putting them back, sometimes suggesting i try it on. it wasn't just lingerie, often just regular clothes, but the idea that he was really "seeing" me, and interested in making me look good, really intent on the subject, was just such a turn on and made me feel like jelly. maybe its just the attention, i don't know. another thing, does she have a sensitive spot? like the back of her neck that you could lightly drag your finger across, or lift her hair and gently kiss, then walk away--asking for nothing, but just appreciating her body? sometimes that appreciation can heighten her own awareness of her body, and make her desirous of more contact. its so easy for women to lose their physicallness in the day to day stuff and it takes some attention and little comments of appreciation from you to remind her of her appeal. for some women, pampering themselves also works. in fact, one of the things that starts affairs with women is male attention and appreciation. i know, i sure would love it!
