I didn't mean to make it sound like guys don't think all the time. I didn't express myself the way I intended to. I really should keep it simply between my H and myself. My H doesn't have a constant running dialogue in his head like I do.
Now, unless he was lying in the C's office this is the case. We discussed this one day. My H has this habit of sitting with a scowl on his face, he often looks really peeved. So it prompts me to ask what he's thinking about, or what's wrong. That was the discussion....he said he REALLY isn't thinking about ANYTHING when I ask that question. He's often just simply concentrating on the tv. When he is concentrating on something in his mind...often he drives me nutz because he'll start a sentence mid-though. I have NO idea what in the world he's talking about. He often swears too that he told me what he was talking about LOL. He doesn't realize he's just started talking mid-thought and didn't put the whole thought out there for me to understand what he was saying....he's REALLY unaware. He almost had me convinced one time that I just wasn't paying attention until he did that with my family in the room (men and women)...he lost us all. LOL See Heywyre...we have a nother similarity LOL
But yes, I agree with you that like you when he is thinking about something it's usually a concetrated thought on something....unlike me who multi-tasks in my brain LOL. It's a very different way that our minds work. I want to stress too...that I don't believe that either denotes intelligence, my H is a VERY intelligent man, we just think differently.
Scatter brained definitely does not denote lack of intelligence -- I agree! If it did, I think my H would have to be committed - lol
And Lou, yes, I am also tired of hearing the worse excuse possible "I'm too old to ....". Time passes regardless of what you do, do you might as well make it worth it. I was (yikes) 48 when I went back to university the second time around and it took me close to 4 years to finish my schooling but now I am a certified paralegal and have my own contracting business - how kewl is that? Gotta love it!
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
I was (yikes) 48 when I went back to university the second time around WTG. I was 43 the first time I went to college. Afraid I could only pass a couple of courses. Look what fear and single mindedness did for me and others. I wasn't the only older student that and in fact many of the instructors said most older students do well in college. I still have trouble with spelling. So life isn’t perfect. I can live with that.
I am a certified paralegal and have my own contracting business ^5 and WTG.
Now that you are your own boss do you realize your customers are now your boss. That is, if you are building your business and want to keep the good customers happy?
...often he drives me nutz because he'll start a sentence mid-though. GEL, I think that is some what common.
When talking with someone in a work situation, talking shop or about a current job, people use the shortened version of what they are thinking.
When I was at work, I knew a fair amount of what another person was doing and if they said something I filled in some details. People at work usually limited their talk to work or some shallow personal items.
I think topics discussed at home are more varied and have more depth so not stating more details/context is a problem.
BB and I can be talking about something when the phone rings and after the call is over, I pick up where I left off. BB looks at me like "what are you talking about."
Some times about the same thing happens when the dogs bark at what ever dogs bark at. It might have been 10 seconds later and if I pick-up where I left off, I get that "what are you talking about" look.
The other problem I have, if I start out talking like I am reviewing the previous conversation, I get the other look "yes, I know already." I try to chalk it up as differences in communication style.
He doesn't realize he's just started talking mid-thought and didn't put the whole thought out there for me to understand what he was saying....he's REALLY unaware. I remember that idea being brought up before.
Did I read something and think BB also read it so she doesn’t need me to explain the topic to her? Did I post something here and also told BB, so if I bring the topic up again, where do I start, how much back-ground do I give or restate so BB is on the same page, w/o boring her?
Now that you are your own boss do you realize your customers are now your boss.
Actually no, but only because the demand right now is so high for qualified paralegals that I pretty much can pick and choose what I want to do and who I want to work for. I am also doing some teaching and lecture work too, so that's very interesting
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
I have a fair amount of local competition and price pressures from big box stores. They don’t do printer repairs but the price of printers had dropped so low, most people replace the lower end printers rather than repair them.
Supply sales, about the same thing. I quit doing some types/brands of repairs and selling of supplies. I have less work now, but trying to keep some people happy just wasn’t worth the effort.
Actually what you and I are talking about is different than what my H does....what you do, wouldn't bother me. When my H does that...I usually pick right up too, sometimes I'm slow on the uptake but I usually pick it up.
What I'm talking about is more like this for example....
Let's say my husband and I had been discussing our days at work...we both work in the airline industry so this is common for us to do...lets say he just finished telling me about a Heavy C check they did that day. Then he stops...is silent for a bit, busies himself doing something in the kitchen or with our son and says "I need a faster processor." That's it...and he expects me to know what he's talking about. That is actually a good example of what really happens. Yes, it is a complete sentence...but he's not only barely given me a clue as to what he's talking about...he's also switched topics without warning.
We'd been talking about a completely different topic....and all of the sudden this snippet pops out. So I'll ask him "what are you talking about?" His response to me would be..."I was talking to one of the guys at work today who does online gaming and he told me that I really ought to get a faster processor for out computer to up my gaming speed." Now, while that is remotely related to "work" it's completely off topic from what he had been speaking about and I'm left going "huh? What does that have to do with what we were talking about?" I don't generally say that...but I will say something like "That was out of left field."
I find that a bit different than us talking about our days at work....and then picking right back up on the topic we were on, with the Heavy C Check. He often does this...and switches topic without warning. Do you do this? If so...quit it!!! It drives women crazy, and not in a good way LOL
My H does the same thing GEL! However, here's an even better one for you
Let's say for instance we are talking about what to buy the kids for Christmas. The next sentence will be about something that happened at work. A day or two LATER (not the same day or even the same hour) he will blurt out "how about we get a bike" or something. DUH!!! and that relates to ?????? He's talking about the Christmas present and all of a sudden something came to mind. Not, "I was thinking about the Christmas presents and ...."
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Oh sure, that happens in my home too. That doesn't tend to bother me as much...that's just one of those times I tell him he came from left field on me LOL.
