Hey thanks guys!! I knew I could count on good 'ol honest feed back from the men. I did not ask the women b/c they will only think like I.

Just M,
I like how you put it- complete loss of who I am. When I first started to really detach and doing my own and not caring or showing concern for who or where he was at, not questioning him whatsoever and making myself busy GALing, H was actaing really funny (weird). One night when all of my 3 girls had asleep over he came in I think just to check on me (sat. night and figured I was going out). H asked who I was going out w/ and I was very vague about it. We were in the kitchen when he all of a sudden grabbed the sink hose and aimed at me and said "tell me who your going with!" Or just palin acting silly to get me to algh or something. WHen H started ( the ist night of weekeday) to leave the house and I was in bed it around 11pm and H knew I was not totally asleep, but he made alot of loud noises to let me know he was leaving. I told to take enough clothes for the entire week and to stya at her house and then I turned the othe other way an continued sleeping. (this was a biggie for me to do). "No i will be back tomorrow to bother you, but then took his sweet old time to leave and came over to take the covers off of me and thats when I knew he must of been horny (we still had not ML in along time). H was testing me to see if I(the old me) would ask/beg him to stay, but I didn't.

Yet all the signs are there that for some reason he soesn't want to live w/ her or have something more serious w/ her. At one time it seemed like he was getting tired of her or maybe she was just pressuring too much.

I have told him that he is dooing the cheating he needs to move out. And why not w/ her since she is so great and makes you so happy? " I don't want that" he says. Well, H has always complained he is sick of the house that he never wanted to buy in the first place.Now he says he likes the house! I told him why not go w/ his "old plan" for him to move out and only pay the mortagage and I would pay the electric and this will be his child support until the papers are filed? "No way am I moving"

I have to see what the laws r here in Florida for seperation b/c I read on these threads that FL has no "legal sep."????