Hey Chick....I was told to come over to your thread and see what's going on.....looks like the H is not grown up yet and reading a line from you saying he looked down about having the kids....well, I am guessing that it was not because of you directly but because he had to watch the kids and wasn't going to able to she his skanky TPT woman.....with detaching....you have to go about it like he is the last thing on your mind and for the most part on him acting differently when you were cooking things differently???? Of course he would be nice.....I would be nice too and play along like you have forgotten about the whole affair thing and would think that you would have accepted the infidelity........NOT!!!!! He is having his cake and eating it too. Proof is that he is still seeing his woamn from the Jerry Springer show. WAKE UP!!!
I understand from the little bit that I have read and I am more than sure you will bring me up to speed on things but from what I read....you need to just brain dump him and have him think that he is totally out of the picture. Yes, detachment is hard...I went through it for a while....but you can do it...it will either work, or he will finally move out. You have to be the stronger one and not let him have his way by you giving in. I know the "what works" thing but I hope you can see that it is a 50/50 thing for you....try something different....cook only enough for you and the kids...end of story....
So talk to me....what's on your mind? You want blunt....well you got it.
