New To SSM

[COG]

nvraln,

OK I just noticed you are very new at DB. So let me try to get you going in a positive direction.

First, I think it would be wise of you to start your own thread. That way you can have your posts, venting, history all in one place so that others can get to know your sitch easier. If nobody responds to your thread, you can go to other threads and ask people to look at yours.

Second, please purchase Sex Starved Marriage, and Divorce Busting and read or listen to them before you do anything else.

I can definately sense the anger, frustration, and resentment in your posts. I can understand your frustration, I've been there and lived through it. Nothing changed in my sitch, until I changed.

He basically said that ........ maybe I needed to "look in the mirror" and change myself first, then maybe I would see a change in him.

You can pay hundreds of thousands of dollars in counseling and attorney's and never get better advice than that. It's YOU who needs to change first, and right now before it's too late.

You need to recognize YOUR weaknesses, YOUR failings, YOUR lousy attitudes. Look in the mirror and ask yourself why your H would want to ML to you. What have you done lately to earn his respect and desire? What have you done lately to diminish his respect and desire?

See you can't directly control another person, but YOUR actions are completely under your control. And every action has a consequence, good and or bad. I'd listen to your pastor, and take a good hard look in the mirror.

Take a deep look at yourself, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Let me know where you set up your thread and I'll keep up with you.

God Bless,

COG