"The trick is how do we remain non-judgmental and compassionate when we feel that our spouses are hurting us, hurting our children, being selfish and, to use the old biblical language, "sinning against heaven and against us"? "
That IS a good question Theoden. I agree that we have to work on not being self-righteous. My H has made comments about that. Sometimes I honestly think it would make him feel better if I went out and really 'screwed up'. I try to refrain from projecting any kind of judgement to him, but the things he's done? I would NEVER do. I couldn't live with myself.
I think as long as we're trying, seeking for that charity and compassion, we'll be blessed with what we need. It's a fine line. Someone said to me recently: It's one thing to be forgiving and accepting, but it's quite another to condone BS. And it IS hard!
8--you are amazing. What a blessing you are for your children.
