Snooping does hurt. I have had the same issues, that's how I found out about OM. I pay the cell bill, should I not look at it. MY W knows I can find out anything I want. I found his numbers, I found his address, I found his apartment after his W kicked him out. It has caused alot of problems, but I can't build trust if calls and meetings keep occuring. To build trust you have to see some kind of proof that behavior has changed or is changing. I haven't seen any phone calls between W and OM in over a week, does that mean it's over, I don't beleive that right now. It could be, but I have other info that tells me it's not. It give me time to really think about what I want for me and my kids.
