I'm sorry but your sich seems even less similar to mine so I don't know what suggestions to offer. I would never call my ex with my problems. This makes me think that your sich is more hopeful because your ex thinks that you are a masculine "rock" in some ways. A lot of the problems with my marriage were due to the fact that I felt like I had to be the "rock" and I'm a pretty lame*ss rock being a Type 7 and all.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
