He told me that there JUST HAD to be a reason for what he did.
And you look him square in the eye and say, 'yes, yes there is. The reason you did what you did is because you CHOSE to do it.'
It sounds to me like your H is very much addicted to compulsive behaviors... and what he does is very much an addiction. You might want to suggest he seek help, for statistically speaking, it is HIGHLY likely he will do it again.
I'd get into counseling, and get professional opinion.
