12_51 - your situation appears similar to mine right now. My wife wants to get together this weekend to discuss "where to go from here and next steps". We've been separated since November. We also have 2 cats and I do not want to seperate them. Not sure what the legal answer is but I'm guessing they would be considered marital property and subject to "splitting". Does anyone else have any insight on this??

Please let me know how it goes with your W - I am not sure what to say to mine (assuming she brings up D talk this weekend). I want to be firm in telling her that I do not agree with divorce, especially as a first option. But I do not want to argue with her either. It's a tough spot we're in because if we argue, we just strengthen their resolve to leave. But if we are doormats, they won't respect us.

Have you talked to your W yet?

M:32 W:26 Kids: None Cats: 2
Together: 9 years Married: May 2005
Bomb: September 2006 Sep: November 2006