12_51 wrote: "However, if I say that I won't be her friend right now it might harm the possibilites of her returning after separation. "

Are you going to support her efforts to get away from you? You don't have to say you don't want to be her friend right now, unless she brings up divorce, then I would tell her right out.

You have to do what you think is right. I think any show of support in a separation that YOU do not agree with is a bold faced lie. Personally, I would feel kind of stupid helping someone shoot me because it was good to them.

You may not save your relationship, but you can surely start right now by being honest about it with yourself and your wife.

One last thing for you to gnaw on; You simply can NOT LIVE IN FEAR of your wife's reaction to everything you do or say. She will sense it and it's almost like wearing sewage for cologne, it will gross her out. That much I promise you.

All the best,
-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.