I agree with you to a point, but often, doing what our "heart" tells us, is exactly the opposite of what really needs to be done. Relationship repair is in part at least, counterintuitive.
An example is cautioning someone new here about being grabby/needy/desperate. Those are gut reactions for a wounded individual, yet they are exactly the wrong thing to do. Those actions will force the spouse even further away.
I absolutely agree that he should "man up" and face the situation and his wife head on.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
