She's moving out and says that it's permanent

[Heywyre]

In one breath you say you don't want to give up and then you say you are supposed to meet tomorrow to talk and would it be a good idea to not show up? What signs are you trying to send to her. If it is that you want her in your life, not showing up is not only rude, but it will hardly say ILY will it?

Be a man about this. If you are going to have to face reality that it is over, at least do it with some dignity and don't give her any reason to doubt that you are anything but a decent human being.

My advice, as far as what "others say" is to not to listen. Only you know what is best for your heart. If I would have listened to what everyone else said about numerous things in my life, I never would be where I am today. And regardless of where I am sitting in my R, I wouldn't trade "me" for the world. I love who I am and who I've become. It's taken a lot of mileage to get to be me and it wasn't because of people telling me NOT to do something either. Unless they have been exactly where you are, and have come out of it in a positive light, you are not going to get encouraging feedback