Just getting started peicing it back together 2

[OldFool]

I said this back on April 7th (I think) and I still stand by it.

...I thought things were going real good and I mentioned to my wife that I would move all my stuff back to the house and she asked why I wanted to rush things.

Whoa...patience there, fella. I agree with your W on this one. Until a good foundation is built, jumping back into things together could be counter-productive and lead one or both of you to engage in damaging behaviors. Let this go for a while. You've come this far, give the process a little more time to work. Remember, if you push too hard or too fast, you risk scaring her off.

If things are a mess and you can't keep going on as it is, then move out again...only stay out long enough this time for things to take shape. If you're going to throw in the towel anyway, you have nothing to lose in so doing. Move out as though you'll never move back in and then sit and let things simmer for a bit. If she cycles back around, don't fall for it. Don't talk about moving back in and if she brings it up, ignore it.

You'll be no worse off then you are right now, or will be if you hang up your cleats, and you might be surprised what may transpire with a little time and counseling.