Quoting lostlove: so there is another good day!! that is not to say that I am not still angry and hurt by what has happened and how things were before all this that it took for h to have an a and leave before realizing he had to participate in life here. that I am not still somewhat resentfull and hurt by this. BUT I have realized that if I want things to be better I have to let them be better and not dwell in the past.
Clearly, you are trying harder to hold your fire when he is around, and he is trying harder to be around.
Both are very good signs. Better still if things work out with the health club and/or additional schooling, so you're not always stuck home.
If you can both keep doing what you are doing, you may find the "discussion" comes of its own accord.
SI 
