Quote: because I see a bad communication pattern still remains, no matter how hard you try to keep your mouth shut or how hard your H tried to please you and stay home
you're absolutley right chuck, there is a huge communication problem here. I like to talk about things, what bothers me etc. I know enough now to pick my battles and let the small things go. are they really worth the fight anyway?
thing is h is a non-communicator. never complains about anything but my complaining. seems perfectly content with everything. just lets it all roll of his back. now that may work fine and well in the business world or with an aquantance but that is no way to have a true r, how can I live never knowing if h is bothered by something I do or say? how can we thrive if I never know if h is happy or sad or whatever.
I have come to the conclusion that h will probably never go to c with me, mine or any other. h does not want to have r talks (never did! wonder how we got here huh?) I guess h just comes from the place where everything will just work itself out naturally and you don't need to do any research or talking or working to get there. so lotta luck there.
guess I should just accept to be merely content. happy that I have a nice home two happy children and a h who is here to provide. don't know much else I can do at this point.
