I'm just afraid that five or ten years down the line you'll become a WAW because your H spent too much time at work. Is this not a rather large red flag?
huge red flag!! but something that hopefully we are working toward fixing. h is understanding that alot of the complaining and nagging I did was due to his not being around and h now realizing that some of his not being around was due to my nagging.
Hi LL,
This is so similar to my situation - my H has been "absent" basically since our son came along. And I know it is his choice to work so much. I also know I drove him away by telling him I needed more support at home and resented him working so much.
It also struck me, about your H's reaction to you wanting to go back to school...since he doesn't seem to mind you doing other things, do you think he is threatened by the thought of you being more educated than him, and potentially more financially successful in a career? Friends of mine have pointed out that my H seems to be going to extremes to prove himself in his work (I have more schooling than he does). I think it's a male ego thing. Not their fault (I don't think of my H as particularly "macho") but it is deeply engrained!
