what you have to realize is you are probably now back at the point you were before the EA/PA happened. You were just diverted the last three years dealing with that...
I hear ya and that doesn't sting at all. Actually it feels good. My EA/PA was quite a diversion and I'm very proud of myself that I was able to stick it out through the aftermath and put enough time between then and now that, as you said on another thread, even H has to realize he can't be a victim forever. At some point, my feelings have to start mattering again and I'm finally at the point where I can see a light at the end of my self punishment tunnel. Once I reach that point, H will be hard pressed to use it against me either.
Now might be the time for you all to head back to MC.
That's not a bad idea....but I don't think he'll go.
maybe you should share your last post with him via email... just so he knows how you are feeling?
I can't decide if that's more of the same on my part. He knows how I feel, I've made it clear. To keep pushing the issue would just be what I've always done and I think it weakens my boundaries. I think I've made my position clear and I need to give him some time to step up...by time, I mean time. That's why I said the year thing. I just need to keep doing what I need to be doing.....I loved the quote that Fearless put on Chrome's thread yesterday:
Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.
I need to keep that in mind and just worry about me.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
