I hope H will participate honestly in counseling. I have my doubts about it, but am hopeful that he will actually want to find answers and make some changes in his life. Only he can do it.
I appreciate the idea of looking at my sitch as objectively as possible and choosing my attitude, reaction and feelings from there. In some ways I have done this, and I think it's why I'm feeling a bit wary. My heart wants so badly for this to be real, but my head sees the inconsistencies in his words and is cautious.