Whore/Madonna Syndrome

[Heywyre]

GEL, yes the validation made me feel really good. Of course it doesn't ease the pain, that is what it is for a lot of other reasons that we have to deal with but the the fact that my H isn't resisting is a BIG plus, however he does feel that I am still analyzing too much and I don't want to use the "that's the way I am" phrase because he has used that in the past and knew he was wrong and is changing his behaviour. If I start using it, I am sure to get criticized for it

Whether or not he will get the C he needs to overcome this (IF the C is convinced this is what he is suffering from, which he does seem to validate at this point) is yet to be seen. I don't know if the C we presently have is qualified to deal with this but I am hoping if he isn't, he will at least have the decency to tell us that and refer us to someone else that might be more qualified.

And yes, H does seem to want to change, which is a GOOD thing and I am VERY lucky to have him in my life, but then he says the same thing about me. As a matter of fact when he was going to bed last night (he had to go to bed VERY early because he works nights, which is a bummer but a fact of life for us right now) he said "thank you for being so patient, I'm very lucky" - just something like that makes my heart melt and feel VERY encouraged.