soo confused...please help!

[Heartbroken]

Also get "Not Just Friends" by Shirley Glass. A do happen to good people and good marriages. Read other people's postings in this forum - most sitch's read like textbooks - they all say and do such similar things. ILYBNILWY, We are just friends...I doubt she can just turn it off that fast. I asked my H to reconcile with me when he finally admitted to the OW - he lasted less than two weeks and was talking/texting again.

MC should be started if at all possible...issues that brought on the A (from both your sides) need to be addressed as well. This cannot just be swept under the rug - or you'll be back in the same boat in no time.

I say of Theoden's suggestions top three are: #3, #6 and #7

Start reading ASAP!!!

I did everything wrong (at first) by the time I actually posted here for the first time we were well on our way to separation - H has been out for 3 mos. but is coming back at the end of May! I got VERY GOOD at Db'ing with this awesome support group! You can change this!!!! Good Luck!

HB