Read the the book Divorce Remedy. DO it right away.
1. Relax. Breathe.
2. She still wants to be in a relationship with you. Time is on your side. You can turn this around.
3. The more you panic, the more you get intrusive, "in your face" and desperate, the more you will push you wife out the door and into his arms.
4. EA most often, become physical. Be prepared that this may have already happened, or will happen.
5. Remorse takes time to feel. The chemicals released in her body by the new romance (EA or PA) completely bury her conscience. THe fog will eventually lift. Right now she's afraid of losing you, but that's not remorse.
6. The important thing is for you to back off, stop chasing her and give her space.
7. Get a life. Start taking care of yourself. Do fun things for you.
8. The problems that causes her EA/PA are still there. You need to work on them together. Counseling is good.
