ok... well here goes... 2 weeks ago found text message from wife on her phone to OM. confronted her and she said...just friends, but then she had his name coded in her phone as a female. she said they talked about the probs we were having ect... I was very ugly with the deception factor to her and she said sorry and that she loved me and that there was no more to find out. I asked her to tell him it was over and she said ok and did on morning of first business day back at work. {what I was told} but....the text was sent on the day of her fathers funeral that she was very close to and said.. "thinking of you". too personal for what she said was going on and definately at the wrong time. so... i snooped... i asked if the texting was going on a lot and she said "no" just a few. so I called the phone provider and discovered 158 messaged traded between the 2 of them over a one month period and numerous phone calls. I texted her that I knew this and she got defensive and said that I should drop it if we were to move on. 5 min later I texted her and said that I was not near my computer but that the phone service provider was e mailing me content of said text and was there anything else she wanted to say prior to my reading them. My phone exploded.. her trying to call me. I called her back 10 min later and she fessed up that they had an EA and many texts that had improper content{positions..likes ect} and a few pics. But that on her childrens lives it never ever got physical. said she was soo sorry and that she does love me. we had sex like 10x that week {and was the best EVER}and she had my name tattooed on her {something we has discussed a few months previous and then she "changed her mind about", I have name and wedding date and dont regret it on arm} sign of future commitment from her? . I told her that part of the moving on is that we go to counseling. she said she will go but seems resistant to it. and also she seems to have the attitude that what she did was not so bad since no physical and "she doesn't see why i am making a big deal of it".... also he lives in another town and stays in apt right behing their office when in town so the possibility of her still lying about PA is haunting me badly. I asked about this and she swears no physical. I did text him and tell him I knew and had proof and that if he didn't leave her alone I would fly there and tell his new wife of 7 months all. he said it was over and he wanted no problems ... I am soo confused. She says she loves me but..... how can she not seem remorseful to me about this? and having said that how do I move on. we have S-6 and S-2. I LOVE my wife but how should i feel ?. She has been acting differently toward me..sweet again but.... I just don't know. any advice appreciated and sorry for the long first post. Familyguy
