Whore/Madonna Syndrome

[Heywyre]

Went to the C by myself yesterday and we had a wonderful talk. He basically validated a lot for me. He wants to read the article I was talking about, said it sounds pretty interesting and dead-on

We also talked about my role in this marriage and why I want to hang onto it - good question eh? (1) I truly love this man (2) most people don't take their vows seriously etc. etc.

We talked about trust and honesty and did I think my H trusted that I wouldn't leave him. I said "yes" and that scared me. He asked why. I said because sometimes I feel perhaps I am being a martyr and perhaps he thinks that no matter what he does, I will always be there. He told me (basically) that I had VERY high morals and he didn't think I was being a martyr. That I had strong boundaries and it was important to me to be true to myself and he respected that - that made me feel VERY good. Here I was thinking "am I being an idiot" and he tells me I am very honourable and don't fit into the norm of society where everything is "throw away" if it doesn't work.

I am in this for the longhaul - good and bad - and I am starting to reep the benefits slowly but surely. H and I had a good talk when I got home too and I told him about our conversation - he validated me also