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so these things are in my head..now just have to get motivated and do them.
Motivation... Isn't that at the crux of everything? Change doesn't just happen...change is a result of making something happen (the quote is something like that)... You know, LL, I've said this before, but this is one of the reasons my W went wacko on me. Please motivate yourself to do something. Who cares whether you use your degree or not right now. In a few years the children will be in school and you can begin to use the degree again. Anyway, my .02...take it as you will. Sounds like you have some ideas, so that's definitely a start. Just keep moving in that direction...

Glad to hear you and your H are getting along. In terms of him being distant...jeez...who knows. I think I now realize that when my W is distant, it's the guilt alien coming back. At least, that's what I assume so I don't start going down the dark path of thinking she's changing her mind about our R.

Have a great day, LL.

jethro