So what is his relationship with the OW now? Are they still seeing each other?
If so, then I think you have a HUGE problem on your hands
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
No. Everything is over and has been for the last 2 years. With that being said, it still makes me see my H in a different light. Not only was a husband that screwed up, but he is responsible for some of his daughter's issues and you know what? He chooses not to deal with it at all and sweeps it under the rug. I guess for his own sanity that's probably not a bad thing but it is quite a bit of garbage for me to overcome. I'm trying, but it still haunts me.
I know that this is a piecing forum and that's what me and my H are doing, but I need some help or advise or anything someone can offer. My H and I are getting along great, but I feel myself detaching a lot! After I found out about his A, I was all about trying to make this work. Now, I could care less. I just don't feel the same anymore. I don't have the same respect for him. I can't help it. I'm trying and I'm still trying and I haven't given up. But it's different. Some say it's better. It's not that way for me. I just exist. I feel empty. Any help with this one?
are you still thinking and feeling a sick feeling when you think of the A? then the wound isnt' totally healead, you are still not at ease w/the knowldege. Do I think of the A daily? yes I do, but without condenmation. When thoughts arise of why on earth he'd do something like that I also remind myself of the kind of w I was. I know your sitch is different and he denied the A and you guys werent' married long. But I'm just wondering if you are still resentful deep inside.
Has your R w/him changed since you decided to work out? did anything improved? From what I've read, men don't see the A as horrific as women do, he prob has no clue how much it hurt you overall.
Your H screwed up big time, did you , have you forgiven him totally?
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
I'll try to cut to the chase. My mortgage company just called, it seems that the April payment wasn't made, actually it was, but the check was returned for insufficient funds. So now April and May payments are due. My credit scrore was over 800, and my husband seems to be ruining it for me. As a reminder the house is in my name only but my H makes the mortgage payment, or at least he is suppose to. I know that the logical thing to do is talk to him about this, but I know he'll blow it off as if it's nothing and he'll take care of it or he'll lie. I cannot continue to live like this. I trust him to make the house payment or at least tell me that he's running short and needs some assistance with making the payment. He continues to betray my trust.
