Quoting lostlove:
why would I want to help her save her m now that I've got my h?? cause I am a sap!!

LOL. You are just a woman with a big heart.

I did agree with Lisa; it is not appropriate for your H to keep plow the OW's driveway. Looks like you guys got it all planned out. But, as you know, you have to decide the timing of it. Even though your H is home, it may need another while before you can make such a request...
Quoting lostlove:
just the mention of the appartment bugged me

Really, I know how upset you must feel about the apartment, as it must have reminded you of the unpleasant memories. However, don't sweat on the small matter. In the grand scheme of your H's coming home, this is not going to matter. See how much understanding he showed to you when you said you were scared. He really knows how you feel, but just give him a little bit more time to sort out "his" best thing to do. Remember, Martians hate women telling them to do things...

Is his love language act of service? I see him working very hard for his family, but not really big on making an occassion (like making fuss of a proposal to you...) I see his actions speak lots of love and caring for you and your family. Give him some credit for working hard in the days like this. Geez, 20" out your neck of woods ? That is lots of snow and lots of $$$ (more importantly, lots of work... )

Chuck