You are speaking about empathy for the betrayed spouse. I can understand that. What I am talking about is getting the marriage back together. That can be a totally different thing. The worked needed to repair a marriage may not seem empathic at all to the betrayed spouse. In fact, that person might feel like s/he is getting the worst of it. But that might be because that person has a lot of work to do and just doesn’t want to hear it.
LFL,
Cobra has the viewpoint it will make things worse. Maybe that is true. I wonder if my H holds resentment towards me now that all has come to light. He says no and acts like no, so I have to trust that. But it is hard.
There might very well be a time when Chrome feels it best to talk about his EA with you. He and his W might be able to see it in a totally different light, as just another cry for help from a hurting kid…. who knows…. I just don’t think that time is now. She can’t handle the truth because she can’t even handle her own truth.
I think she WANTS an excuse like another EA to keep her safe. It would take all the heat off of her and throw it right back on Chrome. She gets to go free for another year before having to face her stuff. How will that help the M?
