Neither of you were going to be able to get to the place in your marriage with this emotional connection between the two of you....simply wasn't going to happen.
That is the painful part, because I wish that it could have been different. But you are probably right. My H and I made great progress after he found out about the R with Chrome. So I see how it could also benefit Chrome (maybe) to be totally honest with his W. But, the problem I am finding now is that the honesty doesn't fix the underlying problems. My H and I still struggle. Just because he knows I am dealing with all of these feelings, it doesn't fix the M. So I just don't know. Cobra has the viewpoint it will make things worse. Maybe that is true. I wonder if my H holds resentment towards me now that all has come to light. He says no and acts like no, so I have to trust that. But it is hard. LFL
