-I have access to his phone whenever I want. -I have her phone number (but will not call) -I have copies of all the phone bills and online access to all future bills. -I am going to call a lawyer to try and protect myself -He has agreed to speak to a councellor and I will too. -He is here when he isn't travelling, but we are not sleeping in the same room. -He has agreed to quit is job if I want him to (I don't however - that would just be stupid at this point) so that there is no more travelling -I am looking for an apartment back where we used to live. Here it is too isolated the house is old and is tons of maintenance.
I know that it isn't very concrete, but at the moment I need to stay strong and be able to look after my girls.
Yes I was duped the first time and thought if it was just a 'mistake' I could perhaps forgive (not forget) and I really worked on that. It is the subsequent lies and deceit that I can't forgive and certainly can't possibly understand.
I have drawn a huge line in the sand - but to move on takes time and planning and goal setting when children are involved.
Cobra I agree that the 'waiting to come out of the fog' is not acceptable, and that I had to make a stand. Yes, I am scared of going alone and being a single parent - it is scary. It is also exciting in some way, a new adventure. At the moment my children and my sanity are my focus. He will always be their father if not my husband.
I am trying to do this sensibly and not just knee jerk. I appreciate your advice even if it is hard to read. So tell me what you think of the above.
