You won't have any ability to relate to the damage an EA can present unless you've been the victim of one...that's just a simple fact. There are MANY people who prior to someone having an EA on them, would have said "what's the big deal?" The fact is...it IS a big deal. Chrome isn't here at the moment speaking for himself, but Chrome is someone who gets romantically involved emotionally with women. THAT IS dangerous for his marriage. You don't get romantically involved with a woman outside of your marriage, you put your foot down and address the issue....or you get out and become free to pursue romantic attachments elsewhere.
Still there are people who don't think EA's are damaging...but for those who DO believe they are, and to have someone cheat in this manner in their marriage is just as devastating as someone who has a PA.
Of course there are plenty of people who don't believe what my H did was cheating either, but what really matters is I DO. What he did was as emotionally devastating to me at the time as it would have been if he'd have had sex with another woman...and there are different forms of EA's, some include sexual content...some involve romantic attachment. If my H hadn't talked with me about what he did as I needed him to and dealt with it....it would have ended our marriage, I have no doubt. Why? Because I wouldn't have been able to trust him. Trust is the a main component in the foundation of a solid relationship.
And yes, it matters that LFL was a woman....because women are who Chrome becomes attached to romantically and emotionally. Women are who Chrome is looking for that romantic fulfillment from...he wouldn't look for that in men.
I hate that Chrome isn't here to speak up on these about things himself and give us his perspective. Often though when he's been asked in the past he tends to tell us that he's not dealing with this right now (at least that's been his past response)...which is another reason I believe this is a HUGE white elephant in his relationship.
